It's officially August, and that means that the SEOmoz PRO Seminar is less than a month away! For a group of people so dedicated to the pursuit of living and working online, it's amazing how important conferences are to the search marketing community (and to your career, if you're a part of this community). That can be tough, since so many of us started working on the web specifically to AVOID human contact. Even if you work for a big company, you may only see people when your manager opens the cage door to throw in some Skittles and Red Bull. If you're not sure how to relate to your fellow humans in person, then this post is for you.
White-hat Stalking
For legal reasons, let me start by making one thing perfectly clear. This post is NOT about Jerry-Springer, whose-my-baby's-daddy, the-judge-says-you-can't-get-within-500-feet-of-me stalking. The purpose of any conference, beyond the learning, is to meet new people – all I want to do is give you the tools to make that a little easier. Attending your first couple of conferences can feel a bit like a job interview, so why not prepare the same way?
Know People's Real Names
Here's a hint: "Randfish" and "Oilman" are not written on anyone's birth certificate. While it's true that most people in our industry won't get bent out of shape if you call them by their handle, knowing their real names shows, bare minimum, that you've done your homework and have some clue about what's going on out there. Oh, and don't make the mistake of referring to Rand as "Randy" – that's how I ended up with only one good eye.
Know People's Real Faces
I don't mean to pick on anyone, but it may surprise you to know that you will never see any of the following faces at a conference:
Now, I know you're a savvy audience, and I don't have to explain what an avatar is, but just because you know someone uses an avatar doesn't mean you have any idea what they actually look like. This is where I'll sound like a stalker, but frankly, you can't introduce yourself to someone if you don't recognize them. So, click on a few profiles, check out Facebook pics, and click around the friend's lists of a few SEOs over on DailyBooth.
Know What People Do
If you walk up to an "A-lister" and, in the first 10 seconds, it's clear that you only want to meet them because you heard they're an A-lister and think that meeting them will benefit you somehow, don't be surprised if you get the cold shoulder. On the other hand, almost everyone likes to talk about what they do. Be informed, know the kind of work people do, and most of all: try to meet the people who you sincerely want to meet. Don't just shake hands and kiss babies because you think it will sell you a consulting gig.
Announce Yourself Early
The easiest way to meet people at a conference is if they know to look for you before you even arrive. How do you pull that off? Easy – tell them. In our industry, Twitter is a great place to announce yourself, and it can be as simple as this:
Bam! – conversation started. Odds are, if your online networking is any good at all, someone will notice, and you'll have a few friendly faces to look out for before you even leave the house. Better yet, arrange to meet up for a pre-conference drink or dinner if you're coming in early.
Keep One Eye on Twitter
Once you're at the conference, always keep one eye on Twitter and monitor the hash-tag, if there is one. That way you'll know where to be, who will be there, and most importantly, who's buying the drinks. For example:
Ok, Will never actually said that, although I like to imagine that he would. Actually, he's English, so he probably would say "pissed" instead of "smashed," as well as whatever word British people use in place of "totally." Of course, don't just show up at other people's semi-private events, but Twitter can be a great source for finding people you'd like to meet but keep missing.
Let Us Know You're Coming
There's no time like the present. If you're a regular Moz reader or even just a comment stalker and are coming to the SEOmoz PRO training seminar, leave a comment and let us know. Don't be afraid to say "hi" in person – I'll be there and, sadly, that picture is really me, not some kind of Japanese cartoon character or CGI movie monster.
If you haven't signed up for the PRO seminar yet, it's not too late. It's just $649 for SEOmoz PRO members. That not only buys you 2 days (August 30th and 31st) of amazing content, but the networking opportunities are built right in. Rand will probably break-dance or do a puppet show or something. You won't know unless you show up!
A purely educational comment to educate you folks over the pond. If Will was to get smashed he might use "bladdered" or "banjoed". English has many wonderful and less wonderful ways of expressing getting drunk. A bit like Eskimos have hundreds of words for snow, here we have an equal number of words to describe intoxication - from light to heavy to comatose.
I like "banjoed" very much. It's time to see how I can work that into conversation.
I thought I spoke English before I moved to London. I was sadly mistaken. My vocabulary was missing the alcohol section.
Can I keep my shoes on if I get banjoed? There's a banjoe association of canoe trips and pig squealing that I just can't shake.
You know you there are too many words from the UK to describe drunk when you have sixteen that start with "S" alone:
Scattered
Scuttered
Shedded
Sloshed
Snatered
Snobbled
Sozzled
Spangled
Spannered
Spiffed
Spongelled
Squiffy
Steamin
Steampigged
Stocious
Stonkin
Amazing.. :-)
Couldn't agree more about the user name / avatar thing. I think it was as far back as 2007 when I made an insightful comment along the lines of: if your user name is BobSEOstar092 and your avatar is a squirrel riding a German shepherd, it's not helpful to introduce yourself as "Rob from the blog" and expect everyone to immediately know who you are when you meet them in person. I've had several awkward encounters with people whom I'd have recognised straight away if I'd known their online names!
Hell, meeting people for the first time in person at conferences is sometimes a struggle anyway. I think this is actually even more true when you do know the person relatively well on the Internet. It's not like meeting a stranger. Do you talk to them the same way as you usually do on the Internet? Yes, I really am that awkward.
The first time I met Ciaran (now a great friend) after speaking to him online for a year, it was like we were eleven:
"Um. You're Ciaran, right?"
"Oh. Hi. It's Jane, yeah? Um."
/stares at shoes; walks away.
It's amazing some of us function in the world, really :p
Knowing Ciaran, he was probably wearing such fashionable shoes that you couldn't help but stare at them.
I remember the dilemma, even having posted my real pic, of whether to introduce myself to people as "Pete Meyers" or "Dr. Pete" - what works as a handle seemed a little pretentious in real life, but every time I walked up to someone and said, "Hi, I'm Pete Meyers - nice to meet you" I just got blank stares.
Of course, time and confidence helps that a bit. Now, my intro is more like "Hey, I'm Dr. Pete - Who the Hell are you?" ;) Ok, maybe it's not quite that bad [yet].
I've always used my real name and photo here, but back in the day when I used to engage in that horrible habit that is Twitter, on the occasion when people would mention my Twitter user-name offline, I found it strange. It was only my last name and initials, so not even that removed from my real name.
I agree about handles suddenly sounding pretenious (although you earned yours, which makes it a bit different!)
I am going to a conference in the UK next month that used Twitter handles for people's name tags. I have no idea what they'll put on mine. There might end up being a hole in the universe.
After the first seminar I went to I thought we should have name tags with our avatar on them.
I do remember the first time I saw Jane, I was thinking, "I know her... no that can't be Jane. She's so tiny." ;) But then she was talking with Rebecca so...
Even with an actual picture as an avatar it isn't always easy.
Jane's avatar looked gigantic? A couple of people have told me that I'm taller in real life, and I'm curious what about my avatar looks short. It's funny the impressions you naturally get from little or no information.
I... I am gigantic. This is me with a pint of Guinness.
LOL - I just got stares from giggling at that pic.
Well knowing how athletic you are I was expecting someone more like this
Oh man sly-grrrr you had to share that picture right before bedtime?! That's like...a recipe for nightmares!
That's really quite unpleasant. Thumbs down.
I totally had that coming. It was wrong.
I was really glad I got a chance to meet you before you moved back across the pond.
I'm really just pissed off that in the UK you get to "pop off to the pub" 8hrs before we do, Future Girl.Â
I... I am speechless.
@Dr Pete: I'm one of the ones that thought you were short by your avitar. Can't say why.
@Jane: That picture of you holding the pint glass makes you look like Gulliver in Lilliput [albeit much better looking than Gulliver]
@Jen: You need to cultivate the art of snickering. It's much quieter.
Maybe it's because I have no torso? I have arms, legs, and a body in real life.
Maybe it's the striped shirt. You know what they say about people in striped clothing (not the one about them being in prison chain gang's, the other one).
I'll be there! I'm totally psyched.
One thumb up for reading all the way through the end of the post and telling us you're coming to the conference :)
Since I changed my avatar to this picture of some old dude, hardly anybody talks to me at the seminars anymore...
Can't wait to stalk see you all at the end of the month.
sly-grrr, I'd consider the cost of coming to the seminar as totally justified just to see if you're as ding danged handsome as your avitar ;)
[not getting fresh mind you, I'm a HMM]
Don't forget the part about introducing yourself to someone in the men's room...can be very awkward :.)
Only the handshaking part could be troublesome ... or the talking all too loudly to the back of someone's head. Otherwise, all's fair in conference land.
A friend of mine once went to a big charity dinner hosted by a few celebrities, including Michael Jordan. He was in the bathroom at the same time as Jordan, and some guy walked up and tried to get an autograph while Jordan was standing at the urinal. His reaction was pretty much - "Um, dude, I'm trying to pee."
I don't know what the point of that story was :)
ROTFL. With a line like "Um, dude, I'm trying to pee." you don't need a point Dr. Pete.
I want be there for quite obvious pricing reasons (not for the seminar itself... but the travel...). But I suggest an extra dvd with the best captions of the people off the seminars... that would be a big reason to buy the DVDs.
They should send someone around the after parties with a camcorder and throw in that recording as an "extra" DVD. I would totally buy that.
"SEOs Gone Wild"
Wait a minute Jen, wasn't that a calendar or something?
Yes... something like that, but an idea could be "a day in the SEOmoz world"... somehow a docudrama (The Office style)... but this is my past in the audiovisual making me imagine things like this one.
For sure, GNC, I would pay to see your face, finally!
Trust me G. As much as the picture shared by sly-grrr is worthy of many a nightmare, my photo would make Jeff's picture look like Little Bo Peep in comparison.
Besides, look at what happened when I used Boozie's picture for my avitar. Dr. Pete featured him in a post! He's looking down from heaven as we speak all a smile ;-P
I have the sneaking suspicion that the average day at SEOmoz is that of a bunch of people hunched over their keyboards (or strategic whiteboards). With the techies about I'm sure there are also nerf launchers and bubble machines.
By and large, even those businesses with relaxed cultures, are often filled with people working long hours and struggling with crazy problems.
You pretty much hit the nail on the head. :) While we have a ton of fun, the majority of the time everyone's working their butts off. Long days and weekends are normal around here.
Excited to attend my first SEOMOZ conference! Getting a seomoz pro membership has been one of the best things to happen to me in the past month.
See, now that's what we like to hear :) Look forward to meeting you.
HAHAHA Please tell me that this is a genuine tweet from @willcrictchlow??
I didn't know you had it in you Boss!
That aside, thanks for the pro-tips Dr. Pete :)
I wish the SEOmoz Conference was happening in New York City. I'll be there in a blink of an eye.
I second that, come to the east coast once in a while! :P
In the interest of being equal opportunity, just a reminder that you've got a pretty rich conference portfolio in New York:
SES New York
SMX East
Ad:Tech New York
Affiliate Summit East
Audience Conference
IMC New York Mobile
Never hurts to check prior to the event, but I believe SEOmoz still sends staff to SESNY and SMX East. Of course, that doesn't rule out more SEOmoz seminars :)
(Thanks to @lisabarone for filling in the blanks on a couple of those events via Twitter)
What would you recommend in NY? I was thinking of heading over to SMX East, but coming from Sydney I feel like I can do some digging to find the "right conference for me" first.
Unfortunately, the list is about where my knowledge ends - I'm in Chicago and generally hit the west coast for shows more than the east coast. Given where you're coming from, you may have better luck with west coast shows as well. People still seem to speak pretty highly of SMX Advanced in Seattle. The must-go show for me is Pubcon Las Vegas, but that's more for the networking. BlueGlass LA (Los Angeles probably being one of the easier cities for you to fly to) just ended - it's new and a smaller event, but it seemed to get very good reviews.
Ok so now I am being picky because Southerners rarely leave the South.
Any good recommendations for Southern SEO - SEM conferences...Atlanta, Charlotte
-I have made it my goal to attend NEXT YEARS PRO Seminar and I am already excited (Been to West Coast once and Never Seattle)
You'd think there would be something in Atlanta. Best bet I know of in the south is Pubcon South, but Austin is still a bit of haul for you. Search & Social had IM Spring Break in Tampa, but now that they've merged into BlueGlass, I'm not sure if they'll have that event in 2011.
You get Skittles and Red Bull? Wow, that Randy guy seems cool.
I will be there for sure, can´t wait. Thanks Dr pete, I´ll be there, just followed your recommendation on Twitter, hope someone replies to my tweet... he he he: https://twitter.com/seo_practices. And just to make sure, my name is not "seopractices", I´m GUSTAVO...
Great and very timely post Dr. Pete. I'm just starting to get my thoughts together for the training so I can make sure I get the most out of it and this was a great kick-off. For the first time in 4 or 5 years, I actually took the time to fill out my SEOMoz profile, upload a real picture and make my username something relevant--my name!
Looking forward to meeting everyone at training.
I wish I could go to one of these things.
Long time stalker. First time commenter. Looking forward to attending and meeting everyone in person. Ill buy a drink or two...or three....
Last year, I was not able to make it up to the PRO seminar. But this year, I wish I must be there and added, this year is really eventful for me. I am so excited!
I am even more excited with the last line Dr.Pete. "Rand's break-dance or puppet show". Shouldn't be missing that. ;-)
A lot excited now.Â
Yep...im excited to be there and meet some people. Got to get out of this Texas Heat...its frying my brain. If anyone sees a guy name Tim Hawkins...thats me...aka Texas Hawk...
A blog post that was both highly amusing and informative. Something is amiss in the universe! Great post Dr. Pete.
Alas, no SEO seminar for me this year. Perhaps next!
Good stuff here. Often thought I should follow up my only blog post here about my first conference experience, with something similar to this.
Avatar's are something people often forget about and wonder sometimes why you can't meet up with certain folks or flat out miss them at the social events.
I am guilty of the non-name specific handle though. It's something I went with a long time ago and could never get away from it. thought about changing it to my real name but figured my last name gets misspelled so often it's not worth it.
I'm gutted that I can't come :-(. Definitely going to head to SEO conferences in London next time they happen.
There'll be a Distilled / Moz conference in London later this year :D Last year's was brilliant - I can't wait to take part again. A fair few US-based SEOmoz and Distilled people usually head over as well. Believe they'll put up dates, etc here soon!
If you were coming from Sydney - and had to choose a search conference somewhere in world where would you choose?
You have SMX Sydney, but that takes place earlier in the year. I went in 2008 and 2009 and it was great, but the trip down from London is really painful for a week-long event.
Getting over to California or Seattle is an all right journey: there's a straight flight to LA and San Francisco, but I remember the SF flight being 14 hours long. Ouch. However, there are tons of conferences on the West Coast that would require a far less painful journey than trekking to New York or Europe.
The guys who put on SMX Sydney also do Search Engine Bootcamps in Australia and New Zealand. Cheeky trip to Wellington? I'd be ever so envious :p (home town).
There's definitely an appeal to go somewhere like New York - for the holiday to add-on, plus to play with the "big boys" in the states and get into the advanced stuff.
Of all the events in search marketing - what has the best wow factor?
And on a side-note, I was just in Wellington 2 months ago.
Bloody Sydney has to be so far from everywhere. I feel sorry for us, poor Sydneysiders.
They will be on the October 25th and 26th (plus half day of pro training I imagine). I'd love to see you there.
Mis-quoting people in RTs is something I'm surprised hasn't taken off more. Seems ripe for abuse. As it is, I'll definitely buy some whisky (I would only call it scotch if I needed to differentiate specifically), but that might have to be one of those smaller parties...
Looking forward to seeing you all. Yes, even you Pete.
Just whiskey Will? How 'bout throwing some haggis in with it. Then you'd have a crowd for breakfast...or not :-p
Thanks, I laughed out loud this morning @
"Oh, and don't make the mistake of referring to Rand as "Randy" – that's how I ended up with only one good eye."
-and-
"Actually, he's English, so he probably would say "pissed" instead of "smashed," as well as whatever word British people use in place of "totally.""
Great post Dr. Pete - your thesis is pretty much on point in that the majority of the online community doesn't have as much practice with connecting IRL... allow me to add 2 cents:
- Read "How to Win Friends & Influence People" with an OPEN MIND. Take the lessons from that to the conference and any other networking you have coming up.
- Have a good 'elevator pitch' ready.. In 99% of cases, you will be given the chance to tell the other person what exactly it is that you do. If you have and interesting and informative elevator pitch, you'll find your time spent IRL will provide some awesome ROI :) https://www.bnet.com/blog/salesmachine/craft-a-killer-elevator-pitch-in-6-easy-steps/9371Â
Please do be careful of the elevator pitches during the social events. If some are determined to toss scripts out, then at least keep it to the conference room floor.
At a social event, though, waiting our turn to spew our drivel is such a poor way to hang out and really meet people. I want to know how you are doing and how you're feeling and if you have any fun stories. I want to know if I can corral a few like minded individuals who can dash outside and have a cigar with me.
Perhaps it's just me.
I think you're right. SEO and social media conferences do tend to be a bit more casual - this can be good and bad, if you're new to them. The good is that you can put aside the elevator speech for a moment and just chat. The bad is that so many people know each other that it can feel cliquey and like you're on the outside looking in. Generally, though, I've found the industry very friendly - if you get the occasional brush-off, move on and talk to somebody else.
I can't wait to stalk Dr. Pete and Jennita!!! I'm really looking foward to heading out to the Pro Training and meeting everyone in person. It might be the highlight of my year!
Might be? MIGHT BE?! Ok, I guess you're allowed to have other significant events in 2010. Not too many, though. This better be at least #3.
Well it has been an eventful year for me, so it will at least be in the top 5 for sure! I'm thinking I may need to wear my sunglasses inside so people will recognize me from my avatar.
Dude! Rule # 1 - Know people's real names! I wish you hadn't changed your profile name because I totally wanted to call you "chenry". :P See you both in a few weeks!
Hi Jen, I will definitelly be there. Talking about ways to meet people: Jen I made a comment a few days ago in Rand´s post about the Seminar, I asked you if you where going to create any kind of social platform for people to meet and network previously to the seminar. Hope I get an answer from you this time...<SAD>
I always were my mega man mask whilst attending events.
Taking into account the advice from this post I am guessing that my plan to scurry around in the shadows and keep my gaze averted to the floor is not the best strategy then, eh? Super psyched for the conference :D
It's been on my mind to remove the "_CN" from my handle and perhaps place my last name. Is it possible for lowly Pro members like me to do such things? I'll check again but so far, no luck.
Oh and this is my first larger event too. In fact David Mihm's Local University last month in Cleveland was my first SEO event, ever.
I'm excited see Seattle for the first time. Also learning and relaxing with such a group of active achievers (if that makes sense) will be amazing.
I can hook you up. :) Shoot me an email with what you want to change your username to.
I just assumed that you worked for CNN but weren't a very good speller ;)
So, you believe I am without resources Mr. Bond? Well prepare yourself for my ultimately evil retort ...
*removes glove finger by finger*
THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS A TRICERATOPS and PLUTO IS A CRAPPY NON-PLANET.
Take that! Now, please excuse me. I need to go powder my wig.
Hey Pete, I think it was one of your friendly tweets that got a bunch of people together before an SEOmoz event two years back. you're good at this social interaction stuff!
I'd like to take credit for that, but I think it was pure dumb luck. I just happened to invite a couple of crazy, outgoing people and then we accidentally bumped into 3-4 more crazy people. The rest is history :)
Ho ho.
Do you really have to dress up flogging conference tickets as an seo blog post?
 The quality on seomoz is so variable these days.Â
I promise we'll be back to hardcore SEO soon. Hope you don't mind a little fun and that people learn at least a thing or two from the post. We are sincerely excited about the PRO Seminar here.
Agreed, SeoMOZ has some serious balls thinking they can promote their business in a readable and entertaining way on their own blog where they feed you boatloads of free content.
The nerve of some companies! Am I right?